Beautiful You, To help with releasing the 

un-forgiveness, which on some level each of us maybe dealing with, I want you to find a place/a position with God in your mind/your spirit that will allow you to rest, think of something peaceful and invite God into the midst of your situation right now.

     I  remember having a conversation with a friend about exposing roots. She was going through a very ruff patch in her life and she did not quite know how to move past this ruff patch. We all have been through an experience in our life's journey right? The problem was this was a situation that took place ten years ago and my friend still was holding on to un-forgiveness, the hurt, the open wounds and the tears from that situation. I asked my friend why did this conversation come up today and her response was because, "I can't stop thinking about what happened, I wake up with on my mind and go to bed with this past memory on my mind." Can anyone relate to this situation this pain or to my friend's tears? I let her know that God was exposing the root of bitterness that had sprung up into un-forgiveness. God wanted my friend free, nothing holding her down emotionally, mentally or spiritually, it was time to let GO!

     Exposing the un-forgiveness, so that you can be free emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Many times people, who refuse to forgive others, live as victims - with a spirit of self-pity telling others what someone did to them.  If bitterness is not taken care of/addressed, it will manifest as long-term mismanagement of annoyance, irritation, frustration, anger or rage.  Most mental disorders stem either directly from--or secondarily generate--anger, rage, resentment, hostility or bitterness. Most mental illness will manifest either:  self-defeating - depression, sometimes passive-aggressive, destructive, vengeful or even violent behavior. 

Some of the Roots that may have been planted because of un- forgiveness:

Overly sensitive about an event in your past: If there are events in your past which cause you to become very sensitive or angry, or even cause you to lash out, then it is likely revealing a deep emotional wound tied in with that event or memory.

Distrust in People – Paranoia (which is a spirit of fear)
When you've been hurt or not cared for then usually there is bitterness.  The bitterness will manifest as distrust and suspicion of others.  

Attention Seeking
Some people use past and present un-forgiven events to obtain the attention of other people. Some people may refuse to forgive because they can still use whatever the offense was to obtain the sympathy and attention they crave. So what has to happen is the Attention must be shifted from what happened, in other words the attention needs to be shifted from the church hurt, it needs to be shifted from that failed marriage, it needs to be shifted from the hurts/abuse from your childhood and then be given to God. 

Dwelling on Negative Events
One of the most reliable means of detecting un-forgiveness is when a person dwells on negative events; both past and present. Unforgiving persons will replay the negative events over and over in their minds, and refuse to give that hurt to God so that He can heal. 

Inability to Recognize God's Presence
Satan can use un-forgiveness to form a barrier between the person and the Lord. God cannot forgive those who refuse to forgive someone else. Un-forgiveness separates us from God and the book of Romans clearly states nothing shall separate us from the love of God. 

     Beautiful You, we have to be willing to forgive, I want you to make a decision that I am going to forgive today! Because you know what, you have come to far to allow un-forgiveness and your past keep you chained emotionally, mentally and spiritually. You been through too much and now you are ready to be free! Have a desire to submit your life to God's Will and learn to love God more instead of wanting justice your way, learn to trust God's power and perfect planning to deal with the matter His Way. The bible says in Proverbs, "He who trust in the Lord will prosper." Doing it God’s way and trusting Him will allow us to get into the sweet presence of God with the liberty of God, the peace of God.

Let me give you some key steps that will help you let go of your past and walk in forgiveness towards others as well as forgiving yourself.

1.  Write down what and who has hurt you; how you may have hurt them, etc. Was it verbal or physical abuse? Dishonesty? Neglecting someone you cared about? Betrayal? Rejection? Theft? Rape? Lying? Addiction? Adultery?

2.  Write down how you feel about yourself because of these unresolved feelings over your past mistakes.  Be very honest with yourself.  Although you may have made amends or been forgiven by others, do you still feel unworthy?  God knows how you feel and He sees your heart.  Express on paper how you feel and let the emotions flow – release them! 

3.  Decide to forgive yourself. Forgiveness is not a feeling but a decision of the will and one of the greatest Gifts from God.  He has told us to forgive and that He will give us the power to do so – but it all begins with the decision to do so.

4.  Destroy the list in private. This visual exercise can be very freeing. Whether you decide to shred it, burn it or tear it up and scatter it in the trash, imagine your past mistakes being destroyed and floating away in the same manner.

Prayer for Forgiveness!

Take your list to God and acknowledge your forgiveness to Him.  “Lord, I come to You today and give up my unforgiveness.  I forgive myself for ____________________.  At this moment, I choose not to hold these offenses against myself, but put them into Your Hands.  God, heal my emotional wounds and help me to be able to move forward without regrets and help me to let go of the past and start fresh. God give me the ability to uplift and comfort someone else with the same comfort you have given me.   I release my past sins of ____________into Your Hands.” 

Beautiful You, until next time you be healed and forgive in Jesus name.

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